Dear wondering soul
Do you ever feel lost in an array of thoughts that ultimately tie you in a bunch of knots, keep you stuck and make you feel like nothing good will happen ever again?
The more people I coach the more I notice that we all have these thoughts to some extent or another.
Yes it's your inner critic, your top dog, your pig dog, your sh**ty committee, call it what you like it can still have some pretty nasty side effects on our lives if we don't find a way to tame them.
Self-doubt, plain and simple, can if you're not careful lead you down a path of negative thoughts and inaction.
Stuck, stuck, stuck. BLAH!
Pretty horrible to say the least and I don't wish any of you to be there, since I know how much you want to be creating things of wonder to make the world a better place and more meaningful for yourself and others. And I know you can!
I've been there too.
Yet, here I am writing this having come out the other side of the whirlwind more recently than I care to admit...
Turns out there are ways you can drag yourself out of this slimy slump of self doubt.
I'd like to share with you some of my favourite tricks:
Create something fun just for the sake of creating something
Be playful in the moment and don't worry about the outcome. Create something that has nothing to do with what you are supposed to be creating. You might just find it'll trick your brain into coming up with the perfect solution anyway. Ah ha!
Like this GOOD THINGS TURNIP!!!
have a good boogie around the room
to your favourite playlist. Our bodies want to move!!
Take yourself out for a walk
Breathe in the fresh hopeful air... yes even if you live in a city. There is very likely to be a park near you that you can go and visit, and even better go see if there is a swing or a climbing frame free! Nature will work wonders on our body, mind and spirit.
Remind yourself of past wonders
Give yourself a boost by remembering that it wasn't always like this. I like to keep a record of good things that people have said to me, or moments when I’ve felt really good about my abilities and achievements in a jar. I call it my 'Jar of Happiness'.
Have a rant or a good ol' cry!
oh yes...do it and let the demon out. Try not to hurt anyone else in the process though because these outbursts can be BOOM! You'll come out the other side...exhausted but probably feeling a whole lot lighter. Get the facecloth and ice on standby to cool down afterwards.
Have a sleep
The phrase 'sleep on it' is a good one especially if you've just had some ranting and crying! Yes, it's a cliché, I happen to quite like clichés since there is usually some truth in them. This one will give your wonderful brain the opportunity to process all that is going on and hopefully make sense of it all enough for you to get a clearer idea of what to do next when you wake up.
This one works similarly to sleeping - since it's not always appropriate to go to sleep in the middle of the day- a shame I know! Simply breathing deeply with our eyes closed can calm our noisy brains enough to let us see some chinks of light. If that feels ok, then try saying some kind things to yourself while you breathe.
Plan out the next single step and take action
You've probably been feeling overwhelmed right? Just before the self doubt struck? ok. So the best way to clear that nonsense out is the think about just the next small step. Don't let the WHOLE thing sneak back in when you're not looking. Write that one thing down on a post-it note and focus on that until it's done. Prove to yourself it's possible.
Do something for someone else
This one is great whenever you are floundering or generally feeling low. Right now take your attention off yourself and instead focus on how you can make someone else's day better, brighter and lighter. And give yourself permission to notice and feel good about that too.
Believe that this too shall pass and good things turn up
We go through cycles and this is one of them. Ask for what you want instead of focusing on what you don't want. Focus your attention on the potential positive possibilities – the good things- of what you would like to happen after these feelings of self doubt pass and imagine yourself already there. I see you there!
So if you are like me...and most other people on the planet...you have to know that good things will turn up and you are worth sticking up for against that inner critic. Go get 'em!
Share your stories and your favourite ways of getting out of that slimy slump of self doubt in the comments below.
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